The turning point in the student musician
WHY DOES THE INITIAL ENTUSISM DISAPPEAR? There was a time when you eagerly awaited the opportunity to pick up a tool and flew like wings on lessons, rejoicing at your successes. And suddenly something changed, something that once came so easily became a routine, and the need to allocate time for additional classes is an unpleasant duty that you want to get rid of. Remember that you are not alone in your feelings. Even great musicians passed through this. And most importantly, be honest with yourself. Answer for yourself: is there a problem in music? Or at the teacher? In the vast majority of cases, this is not so. The fact is that you want to play more with friends and have fun, and do not want to work. And music lessons significantly cut down your free time.
IT IS POSSIBLE TO TAKE APATHY! In this situation, you can get help from at least three sources: do something yourself, ask your parents for help and talk to the teacher. If after analyzing your situation, you realized that, in fact, your main enemy is boredom, deal with it with your imagination! Tired of hitting the keys? Turn them into a sophisticated spaceship control panel. And let each mistake be equivalent to a collision with a small asteroid. Or set yourself imaginary levels, like in your favorite game. The flight of your imagination is unlimited here. And one more little tip. Do not delay classes until the last. Experiment: try for a week to do the necessary first (lessons, music lessons), and only then reward yourself by watching an interesting movie or a long-awaited game. Surely, you are no longer enthusiastic about this idea. However, it really works! You will notice that with this kind of planning you will have more time for personal affairs. MAKE PARENTS ALLIES Do not fight parents in the struggle for free time. Better play with them on the same team! Openly share your feelings with them. Perhaps they will help you plan your day wisely or free you from some household chores. Even simply reminding them of your goals can do a good job. This will help you keep yourself within the established framework.
CHANGE THE VIEW OF THE TEACHER Instead of treating your music teacher as a bore, constantly demanding something from you, look at him as an experienced coach who can lead you to victory. And this is not just your imagination, but the real state of things. What does he lead you to? First of all, to victory over oneself. You learn to be strong and not back down from obstacles. Already now you are achieving what you have not had the chance to experience for most of your peers. You learn to be the master of your life. And it’s worth it to squeeze a little laziness of your own.
Sooner or later, almost every young musician has a moment when he wants to abandon classes. Most often this happens at 4-5 years of study, when the program becomes more difficult, the requirements are higher, and the accumulated fatigue is greater. A number of factors contribute to this. On the one hand, a growing child has more freedom. He can already independently manage his time, take a longer walk with friends. In addition, his range of interests is also expanding. It seems that for him the doors to amazing opportunities are finally opening. And here the need to attend music lessons and practice regularly at home begins to play the unfortunate role of a short leash. Away from the windows! It is clear that at some point the child must visit the brilliant idea – “We must quit everything!”. He sincerely believes that this step will save him from a whole chain of problems. This is where the long and thoughtful siege of the parents begins. Everything can be used: a monotonous repetition of incredible fatigue, full tantrums, refusal to do homework. Much will depend on your child’s temperament. He is quite capable of even starting a completely adult and logically structured conversation in which he will bring a lot of evidence that musical education in his life will not be useful, and, accordingly, there is nothing to waste time on it. HOW TO RESPOND TO Riot? What, then, should loving and caring parents do? First of all, remove all emotions and soberly assess the situation. After all, there can be many reasons for such a child’s behavior. This means that they must be solved in different ways. Do not shift the burden of responsibility on the teacher, relative, neighbor, or the child himself. Remember, no one knows your child better than you. And no one will take care of him better than you. No matter how old your young musician is, talk to him as a mature person. This does not mean talking equal to equal. Make it clear that the final solution is yours. However, the child must feel that his point of view is really taken into account.